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Bigger obstacles, bigger steps
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Faster mistakes, faster recoveries
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Stronger will, stronger self-identity
Stronger purpose, stronger Serenity
A friend recently told me that they admire how I value and take control of my own time. I don’t spend time on things that aren’t valuable to me and I refuse to get bullied into them. It took a lot of work to get to this point but I’m glad I’ve reached a good place with it now.
Value for your time is a BIG piece of asking for more from life. If you can’t stand up for the sanctity of your precious time then life and other people won’t respect your demands when you ask.
Without commanding respect for your time how will you cultivate the guts to demand fair pay for your services? Or for that promotion you deserve? Or for seed money to start that business?
Time is one of the few things in life that you can’t buy more of, all you can manage is not spending it on activities that are worthless to you. If you deeply value helping a good friend then why are you leaving them out to dry while you do favors for another colleague who doesn’t see/respect the sacrifice you’re making?
How will you accomplish your personal greatness if you don’t protect the time to do the work? Impossible is what I say.
By the same token, respect the time of others who respect their own time. A straightforward NO creates more goodwill and appreciation than it destroys. And it makes a true YES that much sweeter.
Perfectionism is just procrastination with a pretty mask on
Listen to and/or download the audio vignette narrated by yours truly below
Life is a tightrope. Everyone’s walking on it but no one’s sure whether their next step will see them still on the rope or not.
Common sense says you SHOULD be unsure, there is very little holding you from falling off. But there is something you CAN be sure of, and that’s yourself. You can be confident in how you’re balancing yourself and of taking control of that small area you have a say in. Forget the rest. Ground yourself in that bit of security and let that be the source of your confidence.
Those that can radiate this confidence become the winners, they understand that it doesn’t pay to worry about all the other variables they can’t control.
Finding out our own limits and vulnerabilities is a powerful tool. Tiptoeing the edge of that cliff and still surviving.
It scares the shit out of you. And even though others might not see it, it bursts your confidence bubble a bit because now you have no doubts about where your powers end.
But it more than makes up for it with the alleviating realization that EVERYONE goes through it. Finding that it is only by creeping to that edge that we can truly progress.
Makes success seem so much more blue collar, and that’s a GREAT realization.
“The battle is won or lost before it is even fought.”
Sometimes I laugh at myself for fearing a disastrous outcome that will most likely not happen. It’s equally ludicrous when I expect a perfect outcome knowing damn well the necessary preparations haven’t been laid.
We lose track of what I call the “Narrow Quality Band,” the range of results you can get from a specific effort. At any given point you can only be so sucky, or you can only be so great. And truth be told, they’re never too far from each other.
You can move this quality band up or down, but it takes time and gradual work, or lack thereof.
Have you tested your band lately? Do you know where you stand? Having a clear estimate helps you get work done and shipped without worry since you kinda already know the outcome. The daunting fear of the unknown reception is what usually holds us back. If you know what to expect the worries almost disappear. Poof.
Everyone wants to be great, but the second someone else working on their own greatness comes around we stop and stare. Mesmerized.
Get off the sidelines.
Give up what others can’t. Do what others don’t. Learn what others won’t.
Instead of just watching them, get in the game. Jump on the court and THEN ask them how they do it.
Excuse me, what’s the secret? You already know it, you’re right here in the arena with me.
Doing is the funnest thing on this earth, once you’re already going. Before you begin- it might be the toughest obstacle you’ve ever faced. But once you conquer your greatest enemy, idleness, then what else is out there that can stop you? Not much.